About Me

I hold multiple NRA Instructor credentials, as well as SabreRed Pepper Spray. I have my own training company in Northern Virginia, www.FemaleandArmed.com and am focusing primarily on teaching women, especially those who are new to shooting.

I am also the author of 3 books, available on Amazon, and at many major outlets. I am a contributing writer for Combat Handgun Magazine and Women and Guns Magazine.

Thank you for following along with me as this journey continues.

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Friday, October 23, 2015

How much training is enough?

I just finished reading a magazine article that posed that question.  The author didn’t really give an answer, not a definitive one, but it got me thinking.  That may have been the real intent of the article.

I have trained, taken various classes, both in shooting and personal defense tactics, have instructor credentials…do I still need training?  YES!  If for nothing else that to learn someone else’s perspective!  I know quite a bit, but I do not know everything.  Every class I’ve taken I come away with something.  Every time I teach I also learn something. 

It is a little like the classic question; “How many guns do I need?  One more than I have.”  How much training do I need?  I’ll let you know after my next class.


Wednesday, October 14, 2015

Concealed Carry Gets Sexy!

Looking for concealed carry options that are made in the USA, functional, wearable, durable, and…sexy?  Sound like an oxymoron?  Not anymore.  Can Can Concealment makes a variety of high quality carry options but their latest offering, the Corset, is best described as concealed carry lingerie! 


I have one, it is comfortable, offers a nice smoothing action, and conceals beautifully!  This is part compression garment, part holster and brings to mind some high end lingerie.  In practice, it stayed in place, didn’t curl or ride up, and held by gun quite securely.



I especially like the re-holstering tabs on the outside of the pockets so I don’t have to muzzle my hand to holster my gun!


Can Can Concealment also makes other carry options, including an awesome thigh holsters with optional garter belt and a couple different hip hugger holsters.  The products generally are sized to fit a compact or a full size gun, you can read the descriptions on the website.  I have several of their products and find the sizing to be spot on, so use the measurements, don’t guess.  So far the durability is great, and one thing I like it I can wash them (unlike leather). 


If you haven’t viewed their offerings yet, check them out at www.cancanconcealment.com. 


These pieces are versatile, there are options, and they are friendly and responsive.



Thursday, October 8, 2015

NRA World Shooting Championship 2015

By Guest Blogger Jim Bogle

The NRAWSC was held at the Peacekeeper National Training Center in West Virginia last month.  This was the first time the NRA has hosted the event and it lasted three days with over 200 competitors.  Sponsors included Magpul, Kahr, Mossberg, STI, and many others.  Competitors shot 12 stages, ranging from cowboy action (which included a Shotgun, a Lever Action Rifle and a Single Action Pistol) to long distance precision shooting over 800 yards distance, to wobble clays to classic running and gunning, steel plates, etc. 

Cowboy Action


Precision Long Distance

Runnin' and Gunnin'

Breaking Clay

There were Professional Shooters, including some well-known names competing for cash prizes and amateur shooters competing for their pick of some great prizes from sponsors and bragging rights. 

Gabby Franco

My Idol, Jerry Miculek

One of the things that set this apart was all the firearms and ammunition was provided.  This not only leveled the field somewhat, it opened the competition up to people who might not have all of the necessary equipment. 
With the backdrop of the Blue Ridge, the scene was beautiful. 

The RSOs and volunteers at each station were thorough, making sure everyone understood how each firearm functioned, and keeping a close eye on the competitors to ensure that safety was practiced at all times.

As a Champion Skeet Shooter, I’m no stranger to competition but this tested me in ways I couldn’t have imagined.  I had never shot some of the events, and there is a very fast learning curve.  But it was fun, challenging, exhausting and exhilarating.  And, I know what to practice before Next Year! 

Thursday, August 27, 2015

Re-Thinking Situational Awareness

Recently several events came together in a synergistic way, causing me to re-think Situational
Awareness.  One of these was interviewing Melody Lauer, Central Iowa Defensive Training, and
discussing her teaching technique focusing on Threat Assessment versus Situational
Awareness.  Many instructors talk about Situational Awareness, but in a way that leaves the
student thinking they need to be looking everywhere at once and processing everything.  Who
can deal with that much sensory input?  Not me!  I don’t try, either.  Like Melody, when I’m
scanning, I am also assessing the people and situations I see to gauge the risk.  In the following
paragraphs I will describe the model I developed to replace my Situational Awareness training
module.  I still believe in Situational Awareness, I’m just taking it to a more approachable level.

Recognize - Prepare - Act

The first step in RPA is to Recognize a potential threat.  Being aware of your surroundings,
taking time to scan with your eyes and with your gut, quickly ranking what you see so you can
focus on the most likely threat(s).  This ranking can, and likely will, change as you move from a
place of relative security, such as a store, into a place of significant risk, such as a parking lot. 
That’s ok, just look for the highest risk.  Don’t spend time trying to memorize every detail or
identify the colors of all the cars.  Instead, see who is within your Safety Circle (the 21’ diameter
around you), who is coming close, who is exiting.  If you are in a parking lot, take note of any
oversized vehicle parked next to your vehicle that could hide someone or pose a threat to you. 
Do you see anyone acting in a way that feels wrong?  Does someone seem to be paying too
much attention to you?  Is someone moving directly toward you with their hands in their pockets
while they are glancing side to side as if checking to see who else might be around?  Do you
see a young Mom with several children, juggling packages on the way to their car?  An elderly
couple shuffling toward you slowly and holding hands?  A teenage boy in a hoodie with jeans
down around his hips?  A man in a suit chattering into a Bluetooth device?  Ok, putting it like
this, it is easy to say “Likely” or “Un-Likely” to be a threat.  But that should tell you something. 
You can assign a threat value, even if it is 0 or 1, with very little information, in less than a
second, WITHOUT overwhelming yourself.  Does this mean you don’t need to remain aware? 
NO.  Circumstances change, and you need to recognize the change and reassess, but it does
help you focus on the more likely threat and gives you a chance to Prepare.

Prepare means that you are considering “what ifs”.  What if the person who seemed harmless
suddenly turns and walks straight toward me, what will I do?  What if I identify someone on an
interception path to me?  What will I do about getting into my car with the large panel van
parked next to it?  Do you need to prepare a response for the elderly couple walking toward
you?  Probably not, except maybe a polite smile.  This lets your brain think about what to do if
the potential threat becomes a real threat.  It lets you Prepare to Act.

Act is taking whatever action you can to avoid (always a good first choice) or respond to (when
there isn’t another choice) a threat.  It may mean turning around and going back into the store,
crossing the street, or hurrying to your car.  It may mean bracing for a direct confrontation, and
doing what you need to, within your skill level, to survive. 

Stay Safe!

Tuesday, August 18, 2015

Political Correctness in the Shooting World

There has been a lot of press recently about political correctness, defined by Wikipedia as “an ordinarily pejorative term used to criticize language, actions, or policies seen as being excessively calculated to not offend or disadvantage any particular group of people in society”.  Given the nonsense attributed to Political Correctness, the definition appears to offer a much more narrow view.

It got me thinking, how does this apply to shooting? 

What about the term “Bad Guy”?  Are we singling out men as being the aggressors or criminals? Why not “Bad Girl”?  But, that has another connotation. 

How many times has someone referred to their firearm with a feminine pronoun, as in “She shoots sweet?”  Why not “he”?  Oops, that could be misconstrued, too. 

How many “bullets” are in your gun?  The same as the number of cartridges, I hope, since I shoot semi-auto.  Granted, bullets aren’t people, but they have feelings, too.

Admittedly, “Bad Ass” has become a gender neutral term.