Monday, September 8, 2014

Female and Armed welcomes 4 Associate Instructors!

Some say a good man is hard to find.  That may be so, but I found four of them and they have stepped up to join the team at F&A.  Each of these men is a very talented instructor in their areas of expertise and, most importantly, they are all very good at working with women (having taught with all of them I can say that), and sometimes it is good to have a man to demonstrate advanced defensive techniques.  It is my honor to teach with each of them.

We’ve come a long way in the last year.  The home training parties are a hit, and it has the added benefit of keeping costs down for students.  We have added basic personal defense and advanced defensive techniques to the curriculum.  My second book is now available on Amazon and other outlets.

As we close in on the 1 year anniversary of F&A, llc, it is time to look back and see the amazing things that have happened.  New courses, a new book, lots of learning, adding additional instructors.  This has been so much fun I can hardly wait to see what the 2nd year will bring!

Tuesday, August 12, 2014

So Busy!

I apologize quite sincerely to you all.  Time has gotten away from me.  Some of you know that I’m going through a difficult time in my personal life, and that has had me quite distracted.  I really haven’t felt like writing when I didn’t actually have to.


I did recently get together with some wonderful folks for a Range Day, courtesy of John at FPF Training.  I needed pictures for an upcoming book on Advanced Defensive Techniques, and John was kind enough to let us use his beautiful range.  The day was gorgeous!  Great friends, lots of green, fresh air, awesome photographers and LOTS OF GUNS!  What could be more fun than that?



I’ll be sharing photos from that day over the next weeks.  I got to try some new techniques, some of which I can tell you work, but encourage you not to try them unless you have to use them to defend your life.


One of the most profound things that day was a discussion of aftermath.  Everyone was a credentialed instructor in their own right.  All experienced shooters.  We all learned from each other but the one thing that touched one of the women deeply was a discussion of aftermath.  To illustrate, I told a story from my own life.  Back in the mid 80’s (I know, some of you weren’t born yet!) I was stationed in Korea.  It was common for me to go hiking in the hills beyond the town outside of the base where I was stationed.  I was young, fit, invincible, and the Korean people were wonderful, polite and generous, so I never had a moment of fear.  Besides, I had taken lots of self defense classes.


Well, one day, my world turned upside down.  I came up on a man who managed to convey that he would like to pay me for sex.  My Korean was pretty bad, as was his English, but I got the message.  He offered me everything he had which translated to about $7.00.  To this day, I’m not sure which offended me more, the proposition or the amount.  LOL  I declined and kept walking, he grabbed me.  Everything I had ever learned went right out of my head.  I slammed both hands into his chest, palms flat, knocking him down, and I ran.  I didn’t stop running until I was almost back to the base.  I never even looked back.  I went straight to my room, and then to a hot shower.  I felt violated, scared, and couldn’t stop shaking.  Then, it dawned on me.  I knew all these things I could have done and I didn’t do any of them!  What was wrong with me?  It took a lot of nudging by some very caring friends to get me out of the dorm and at least out in public the next day but I continued to question and second guess myself for several days.  I finally went to talk to a counselor.  She turned out to be wonderful.  She listened to me beat myself up for what I could have done and then gave me the magic answer.  I was safe.  I had not made the situation worse, I did exactly what I had to do to get away.  No more, no less.  I did the right thing.


That was a turning point for me.  I now share that story when I teach basic unarmed defensive tactics.  I teach simple things, easy to remember, easy to do and encourage the students to do the minimum it takes to get away. 

This message resonated with one of the women who had found herself in a situation where she reacted and got to safety but went through the same second guessing that I had, except she had not found a caring counselor.  She didn’t realize that what she experienced was normal and it was ok, until that moment.  Talking privately later, we both got a little emotional.  It touched my heart to know that someone else had been touched by my story.


I hope you never have to experience it for yourself, but remember, what you feel after is normal and if you are safe, you did what you had to do, including not making the situation worse.


Safe Shooting

Sunday, June 22, 2014

Personal Alarms

I'm a huge advocate of the little Personal Alarm, it is a great noisemaker and distraction.
I've carried a device from Sabre Red for years on the outside of my purse, but was recently introduced to what can only be called it's big sister!

Athena, at told me she had just started carrying a personal alarm from Swiss Tech and I had to check it out.  Price point is similar but there in not comparison in value!

This little beauty had a flash light, a flashing red strobe, a replaceable battery, an option lanyard, a removable belt clip and a replaceable battery.  Oh, and it make a lot of noise when you push the panic button!  I added a split ring to mine so I could more easily hang in on my purse, but this little baby is awesome!!!

Head on over to Gun Goddess, and check this out as well as the other wonderful offerings.  She is expanding her personal defense line and helping use all be safe, in addition to the other awesome fun things you can find there!!
Safe Shooting!

Friday, June 20, 2014

Busy Life

I apologize for not writing more, it has been that kind of year. 

Book 2, The Home Security Handbook, will be out in August and is up on Amazon for Pre-sale. 
Book 3, Female and Armed, Advanced Defensive Techniques, is in the works for next year.  We are having a photo shoot next weekend for the book, several great shooters coming in and we will have an amazing day (hoping it doesn't rain).
Shout out to my favorite editor, Kristin!!!! 

I did a taping for a local access program last night on career choices that focused on the teaching and writing, it was a lot of fun, I'm hoping to get a link I can post.  I was nervous but once I got going...well, let's just say it helps to be passionate about your topic. 

So many blog ideas, they will be written soon, I promise.

Several ranges are hosting Daughters on the Range this weekend.  I'm so excited for them and wish I could be being one, but maybe next year.  Remember, teaching your kids safety and take away the mystique is not only fun but makes them safer.

Just had an amazing opportunity to interview Julianna Crowder, founder of A Girl and a Gun Shooting League, for a Combat Handguns magazine article.  I have met Julianna but never sat and just talked to her for almost 2 hours!  She is a dynamo, a sweetheart, and a passionate advocate for women.  I liked her before, not I respect her, too.  She is doing what she is doing to promote the sport, empower women and provide a safe comfortable environment for them to learn.

I got several new belts from Looper (aka FLASHBANG), they are gorgeous!  Post with pictures coming soon.

Athena, over at has been super busy finding new and fun products!  I almost don't want to go to her site because there are too many awesome things!!  check it out, you are guaranteed to find something you will love.  She just sent me a personal alarm to try, post on that soon, too!

Be safe, be well...thank you for staying with me, I will be back to posting regularly very soon!!!

Safe Shooting!

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