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Thursday, March 21, 2013

Friends Don’t Leave Friends

A very good friend recently shared a story with me of something that happened to her a few years ago.  She was in her mid 30’s at the time and was out for an evening with several girl friends.  As some point she began acting severely intoxicated, and from that point needed to rely mostly on the accounts of others.  She was said to be acting very “friendly with a man she didn’t know”, but also appeared to be very drunk, to the point of throwing up. 

Her now ex-friends thought she was having a good time and left her with the stranger despite her obvious impairment, that fact that she had consumed very little alcohol and that this behavior was completely out of character.  They later said they thought she was having a good time and was “in to him”. 

For my friend, it turned out ok.  The man, while a bit of a jerk, was not a total tool.  He drove her home and accepted her resistance like a “gentleman” and left.  She suspected another man of being the one who “dosed” her, and the two men were acquainted, which could account for him being responsible enough to see her home and not force unwanted attentions.  It could have been much worse. 

This can happen to anyone!  Yes, she is quite attractive, but she was not a 21 year old sorority girl out with her “sisters”, she was, and is, a responsible adult woman who was out with other women she trusted. 


Never leave your drink unattended, or if you do, and it wasn’t watched, don’t finish it

Never accept a drink from the hands of someone other than the server or bartender

You leave with who you came with, never leave your friend behind, especially if she seems to be impaired

What does this have to do with guns?  Nothing.  But it is important to be reminded that danger comes in many forms, you need to be aware and we need to watch out for each other.


  1. That's a great reminder, Lynne. Living in a college town, it scares me to see the number of men and women who are falling-down drunk and obviously unaware of the precariousness of their situations.

    1. Good point, we need to remind them of the dangers. But it can happen to anyone! This lady was well into her 30s and it happened to her and the friends left her behind...I don't understand that at all!

  2. I always thought it would be a good idea to have lids on cups at bars, yes I know that is costly for a business but for two reasons lids would be good, one it's harder for someone to drop something into it and two for those people who choose to be on the dance floor with drink in hand, it won't spill or splash on others or the floor. Making the floor a wet place where one might slip and get hurt. Unfortunately the clubs I used to frequent didn't like the idea of lids.

    Another thing though, it might be good to keep an eye on your bartender, we had a club here where the bartender was slipping stuff into drinks.